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A Real Loser|بازنده واقعی


 

A friend once said;

I was 18 when my aunt found out that her husband was having an affair with his secretary.

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The secretary got pregnant and her husband wanted to marry her.  My aunt tried for years but couldn’t get pregnant. She knew one day her husband would leave her because he wanted his own child.

My aunt divorced her husband at the age of 46.

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To fulfill her loneliness and get rid of the sadness, she started drawing and painting classes to learn what she always said, was her passion.

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Her drawings were so embarrassing and if no one knew, they would think a little kindergartner drew them. To me, she was a real loser and I was very ashamed of her. I thought:  she was 46, she should work harder and think of her retirement, not waste her time on painting and making a fool of herself.

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My father was one year older than my aunt. My father never did these crazy silly things; he just worked and worked very hard. He was always very focused.

Years passed and I became 40 years old, I was living in another country, educated and having a good life. One day when I called home, my sister picked up the phone. She said Mom went to visit my aunt’s painting gallery. And my sister was there staying with Dad.

“Aunt’s gallery?!” I asked.

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My sister said: “Yes, she’s a famous painter. She had several successful art shows so far and sold many of her paintings. She even teaches drawing and painting.”

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I remembered the day that I thought my aunt was a loser and my father wasn’t. Now I could see how healthy and happy my aunt was and my father with almost the same age is a tired retired man who only solves puzzles, drinks tea and goes for walks thinking about his old days, but my aunt built a happy and successful retirement.

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My aunt thought me how not to be a loser; to follow my dreams and never be embarrassed about something that I am passionate about.

 

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169 comments

  1. Cheers to your Aunt! That’s great that she kept pursuing her passion and didn’t give up, a great role model!

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  2. Incredible, resilience! 😊🙏🏽

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  3. Great lesson and wise aunty, thanks for sharing your story and your passion 🙂

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  4. Thank for sharing… perhaps the divorce were the best thing that happened with your Aunt… 🙂 just follow your dreams…. 🙂

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  5. Sorry ignore the video… it was Keep a Dream in your pocket by the Seekers… 🙂

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  6. “When you reach an obstacle, turn it into an opportunity. You have the choice. You can overcome and be a winner, or you can allow it to overcome you and be a loser. The choice is yours and yours alone. Refuse to throw in the towel. Go that extra mile that failures refuse to travel. It is far better to be exhausted from success than to be rested from failure.” —

    Mary Kay Ash

    PS. I love you and your stories!!!!

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  7. The father was on a journey the aunt was on a quest. Life come to those who choose to live it. Wonderful story, thank you for sharing.🙏

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  8. Remarkable story thank you laleh of course if we want to have a good future we have to pursue our passion

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  9. It may take years to learn a lesson but the point is that you actually learn. Thanks for the wisdom

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  10. Remarkable journey of your Aunt! Certainly Our obstacles always push us to be better! Follow your dream to make them reality! Definitely a great lesson to learn! Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you and your Aunt! 😊💛

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  11. I think that the moral of this story could be…do what you love and love what you do. When my children were in high school and began thinking about what they wanted to do next, this was the advice that I offered. It had worked for me! Thank-you!

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  12. Whoa, thanks for this inspiring story. Yes, we just have to keep plodding on and do what we love and what we believe in. Thanks for sharing this message with us!

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  13. that is one smart lady. 🙂

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  14. What a beautiful story on every level.

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  15. love, love this story……….so happy your aunt lived her authentic self……..if we could all be so lucky.

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  16. Thanks for an encouraging story, dear Laleh! Indeed life is too short to live somebody’s dream! 🙂

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  17. Very nice in experiencing success of a lady 😇🤗

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  18. Very nice successful experience of a lady
    Kudos 👏👏💐

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  19. Laleh chini, do you know Hindi?
    Don’t mistake me because you are from Iran and I admire at you for learning an Indian language.

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  20. Starting over later in life is not easy, especially after a divorce. While we take baby steps moving forward, others may laugh at our efforts behind our backs. With persistence in pursuing our goals and belief in our dream, we can and do succeed.

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  21. Loved this story. Thanks for sharing.🙂

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  22. I love this story and it’s a true testament to your aunt’s determination to follow a path of happiness rather than anything else. I only wish your father could find something to be passionate about in his retirement.

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  23. Beautiful story !! Never underestimate yourself!! Aunty is humble and didn’t stopped believing herself

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  24. A wonderful success story, with lessons for us all! 🙂

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  25. Love, love , love! Thanks for sharing!

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  26. Happy for her – as she could find real happiness !

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  27. It is best to follow our dreams. I always say I do not want to be in the elders home and saying:” I wish I had….” or ” I could have but…..” I often remind myself …if not now then when? Nice story in this post. Thank you.

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  28. A wonderful story, of how never to give up; on yourself! 😊

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  29. I enjoy reading your stories so much!

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  30. And yet another wonderful story!💜
    Take care Laleh.

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  31. Great story. When we are children, we have boldness and courage to try new things. When we are adults, we become afraid for some reason. A good lesson for us all.

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  32. Such a beautiful and inspiring piece.

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  33. Everyone has the potential to flourish but for some of us it may take time to bloom! Go Auntie.

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  34. Often those we think are “less than” us teach us the most. I’m proud for your aunt and the lesson you learned about fulfilling your natural purpose.

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  35. That’s really a sweet story… a big hug to your aunt for pursuing what she liked without a conscience of being perfect… thanks for sharing that beautiful story..😊😊😊

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  36. This has got to be one of your best posts, you really outdid yourself, good job!! ❤

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  37. Inspiring story! We can make something beautiful after tragic loss.

    But I, being poor, have only my dreams;
    I have spread my dreams under your feet;
    Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

    –W. B. Yeats

    minor edits:
    “always said [remove comma], was”
    “A friend once said[,]
    The secretary got pregnant and [my uncle] wanted to marry her.

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  38. great lesson I want to be like your awesome Aunt never to give up no matter what. Thank you for sharing it with us

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  39. Inspiring and thought provoking. A wonderful story.

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  40. Wow, touching story, your Aunt is blessed by God and I love that she never give up despite the odds! ❤ beautiful! I'll love to see some of her art pieces!

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  41. Very beautiful and inspirational story…thank you for sharing.♡♡

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  42. Following your dreams is the best way to be happy

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  43. It sounds like she followed her passion, dreams can come true!

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  44. Thank you for a really motivation story, Laleh! Michael

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  45. What an incredible story that clearly inspired you later on in life. Anyway, called by to leave my thanks for your recent decision to follow Learning from Dogs. Thank you!!

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  46. Goodness! So much profound truth and “human nature” woven throughout this story Laleh. I read it TWICE just to lick-it all up again! Hahahaha! 😛

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  47. It is always special to have art, music or writing talent since it not only fills your own soul but blesses others with its beauty! What a wonderful and special story to read, Laleh.
    You are such a blessing, lifting other’s spirits high! 🌟 💖

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  48. Such an inspiring story…. We should never ashamed of who we are and our passion in life❤️ Love your aunt’s journey to success even at that age💐 Love and hugs!💕

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  49. That’s an excellent story

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  50. What a great and abstract turn of events. Two wonderful success stories. Your Aunt pressed through the hurt, pursuing her passion painting with resilience, leading to success 💜.
    Your Dad has worked and accomplished retirement, he sounds like s man who loves and provides for his family. He seems to be enjoying his walks, relaxing, reflecting. ❤️
    💕Beautiful Family

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  51. Reblogged this on Tourism Observer.

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  52. Never judge a book by its cover..

    Thank you for sharing.

    Paul

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  53. Such a lovely story, because in the end she was empowered

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  54. Oh Laleh! I love this! Makes me want to pick up my brushes 🎨

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  55. Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
    REALLY NICE YOUNG LADY—AND WE–MY WIFE AND I—NEVER COULD HAVE CHILDREN. LIFE PROVIDES O[PPORTUNITY IN THE MIDST OF SUFFERING!

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  56. Thanks for sharing this enlightening post. Very inspiring.

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